Season 2 – Episode #36 – Emotional Self Mastery with Shasheen Shah

This week on The Kintsugi Podcast we introduce you to Shasheen Shah, a brilliant author and successful communication coach, dedicated to mastering personal development and the ability to gracefully navigate and find coherence and integrity in all aspects of life.

We talk about his amazing book, “The Kid and the King”, the constant pressure of today’s society that focuses on external solutions, the necessary inner work, and finding the right questions that lead you to the real purpose- to conquer and re-engage with life.

Enjoy listening to our conversation and, until next week, remember to have fun storming the castle!

Key Points:

1. Resilience in Shasheen’s perspective, background and motivation (03:32);

2. Coherence and alignment- bringing integrity in all the aspects of your life (11:49);

3. “The Kid and the King”- Why now? (17:32)

4. The Purpose- What do you want? Why do you want it? What are you willing to do to get it? (32:00)

5. Five emotional mastery questions (14:52)

(What did I observe? What did I conclude? How did I react? What action did I take? Did that action move me closer or farther than my intended outcome?)

Quotes:

“Ups and downs happen, the yin and the yang, there’s highs and lows, but our ability to elegantly navigate that, to kind of course correct along the way it’s the most important part.”

“Some of the isolation has been good for some, but I think ultimately we need to feel like we have belonging, have a sense of purpose. It’s grounding.”

“We go through experiences that lay down some scars, it’s part of our Kintsugi and then, as we grow older, hopefully with a little more wisdom, we can start to see ourselves a little bit differently. It’s the magic of growing older.”

“When you have a few spokes out of alignment, it puts stress on all the other spokes […] you might be killing it with your professional life but if your personal life is a mess, well, that mess is pulling on your career.”

“We’re constantly being lied to. I think the biggest lie is that you’re broken. […] we live in a world that is driven by and advertising media focused on these external solutions, external manifestations that will somehow lead us to believe that we’re gonna feel better, look better and all of those different things.”

“I never felt as good as my life looked until I started taking on that inner coherence, doing the dipper work, start asking those three hard questions: What do you want? Why do you want it? What are you willing to do to get it?”

“It’s not the car, it’s not the mansion or the guy or the gal, it’s the feeling. We go after feelings, we go after emotions.”

“You can be grateful for what you have right now, and still be thirsty to make more of an impact.”

My guest, Shasheen Shah:

– communications coach and strategic facilitator.

– founder of “Executive Coaching and Consulting”.

– author of :

”The Kid and the King: The Hidden Inner Struggle High Achievers Must Conquer to Reignite and Reengage with Life “

Shasheen’s official site

Shasheen’s social media:

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Mentionings:

Trisha Wilson- short bio